Everybody is talking about it, everyone has their own
definition about it, and everyone has their own way of
testing for it. But, what is EQ and how can a good EQ help
me?
In 1995, Daniel Goleman wrote a book supporting
that EQ is supposed to be even better than IQ.
How could this be? What is EQ exactly? EQ is an
abbreviation for Emotional Intelligence.
There are four branches regarding Emotional Intelligence.
Responding to other's emotions, responding to my emotions,
personal wellbeing, and practicing and managing these
emotions inside of you and inside of others.
There are five qualities that feed off of each other, that are
supposed to be supportive. These qualities are:self-
awareness, self-control, motivation, empathy, and finally
social skills.
We can start with self-awareness. This trait in the EQ
forum signifies an understanding of one's self and identify
with emotions. Next we will gear up for self-control. Self-
control highlights the effectiveness of controlling one's
emotions to the point where their display of emotions is
controlled and the individual displays emotions in
appropriate ways.
Motivation is next, where one sees the end of the tunnel
in reaching goals, and setting these goals realistically. How
many times have you heard, just imagine if you were in
their shoes. Well, the next quality is where one can
understand others' feelings. The last one is kind of tricky.
The trait is social skills.Interacting socially, managing
each other's emotions in conversation, lastly, being socially competent. This trait has the tendency to be different
in different cultures, so what would socially competent
mean for me? I don't know.
The experts recognize that knowing emotions helps
steer you into the right direction, on your way to becoming
mentally competent. After reading several articles on
the topic of Emotional Intelligence, I have come to a
brilliant discovery.
This discovery may not be entirely my own, but I made
the conclusion (after reading many articles) and that
conclusion is this:
Emotional Intelligence is in fact one's affect capabilities.
The ability to accurately identify with one's own emotions, that
influence your behavior. It is affect that needs to be taught
and the known way at the moment is to fill your EQ piggy
bank with as many emotions as you dare. The more
emotions you know, the more accurate you can be. Somehow,
the teaching of emotion effects affect. Are you behaving
in a way that coincides with your mood? Or are you smiling
through tears...are you acting in line to your mood? Do
they match? Your mood and reaction? Tricky to learn, but
it shows promise.
Lastly, the experts purport that EQ is teachable. There is
no right or wrong way to train others to have a good EQ,
but this is a new concept that requires further study and
treatment plans.
Affect is the key here. There is mood and then there is
affect. Affect is like an adjective to your mood. You
might be able to say that your moods are the primary emotions
and the affect the secondary and tertiary emotions. Know
them, live them, manage them...
Vocabulary ABC's
Expressed Emotion
definition about it, and everyone has their own way of
testing for it. But, what is EQ and how can a good EQ help
me?
In 1995, Daniel Goleman wrote a book supporting
that EQ is supposed to be even better than IQ.
How could this be? What is EQ exactly? EQ is an
abbreviation for Emotional Intelligence.
There are four branches regarding Emotional Intelligence.
Responding to other's emotions, responding to my emotions,
personal wellbeing, and practicing and managing these
emotions inside of you and inside of others.
There are five qualities that feed off of each other, that are
supposed to be supportive. These qualities are:self-
awareness, self-control, motivation, empathy, and finally
social skills.
We can start with self-awareness. This trait in the EQ
forum signifies an understanding of one's self and identify
with emotions. Next we will gear up for self-control. Self-
control highlights the effectiveness of controlling one's
emotions to the point where their display of emotions is
controlled and the individual displays emotions in
appropriate ways.
Motivation is next, where one sees the end of the tunnel
in reaching goals, and setting these goals realistically. How
many times have you heard, just imagine if you were in
their shoes. Well, the next quality is where one can
understand others' feelings. The last one is kind of tricky.
The trait is social skills.Interacting socially, managing
each other's emotions in conversation, lastly, being socially competent. This trait has the tendency to be different
in different cultures, so what would socially competent
mean for me? I don't know.
The experts recognize that knowing emotions helps
steer you into the right direction, on your way to becoming
mentally competent. After reading several articles on
the topic of Emotional Intelligence, I have come to a
brilliant discovery.
This discovery may not be entirely my own, but I made
the conclusion (after reading many articles) and that
conclusion is this:
Emotional Intelligence is in fact one's affect capabilities.
The ability to accurately identify with one's own emotions, that
influence your behavior. It is affect that needs to be taught
and the known way at the moment is to fill your EQ piggy
bank with as many emotions as you dare. The more
emotions you know, the more accurate you can be. Somehow,
the teaching of emotion effects affect. Are you behaving
in a way that coincides with your mood? Or are you smiling
through tears...are you acting in line to your mood? Do
they match? Your mood and reaction? Tricky to learn, but
it shows promise.
Lastly, the experts purport that EQ is teachable. There is
no right or wrong way to train others to have a good EQ,
but this is a new concept that requires further study and
treatment plans.
Affect is the key here. There is mood and then there is
affect. Affect is like an adjective to your mood. You
might be able to say that your moods are the primary emotions
and the affect the secondary and tertiary emotions. Know
them, live them, manage them...
Vocabulary ABC's
Expressed Emotion