Wednesday, December 23, 2020

Another Bloody Nose?

Emotional Abuse is real. What if I told you that I was so emotionally abused that my nose would bleed like water. It was so bad, it would change my eye color. What if I told you that the person who did that was family. So, very close family that it was my mom. She was nasty about letting me see my kids. I did everything that she asked me to do, and still she would use my kids as a bargaining chip to keep me dependent on her. Keep my under her rule. Financially as well as emotionally. She was supposed to be my best friend. In the end, she died alone. My brother didn't even visit her. I figured it was just an attention getter and that she would be better soon. 

I was poor and blind to her ways, until I grew up and had my life after the kids became of age. My stepdad might not admit it, but my mom used him to pay for my children's expenses and the foster money to spend on her lonely bankruptcy business and business rent. She has been gone now for ten years. Ten years, and I am finally finding my happiness. And if I get a runny nose now? It is clear fluid. No more blood tears and stolen firsts.

Vocabulary ABC's


a video about imbedded glass in the bottoms of the feet of the homeless

  

Sunday, December 6, 2020

What if I told you they tried to kill GOD

Just a short post today...but here are a couple

of thoughts to think about...


Why are all angel wings white?

What if they are also blue, red, yellow...whatever color?


What if I told you that empaths are under trouble

in their fight for god, who is in danger of being killed....

In other words, we fight those and are against those who

tried to kill god...


We should be getting better over that now...this is why we

don't know what to tell you when you say 'they'...because

we just know that 'they' were the enemy...those trying to 

kill god...that is who 'they' are...

 

Okay...what if I told you that when the holidays hit, 

unusual thoughts manifest, that just have to be considered....


Vocabulary ABC's

Thursday, September 10, 2020

I know, I get it...do you?

     I know how you feel about being called the color of your skin...but if 

you are to be called African American, or Asian American, or even 

Latin American...what about me? You call me white, before you ask 

what culture am I from. I consider myself half "white". 

      I know. I get it. You are a minority. Do you think I don't know what 

that is like? I grew up a Virginia girl, and then became an Island girl. I 

spent my high school days in Hawaii. I didn't know how I would 

fit in. Then, during basketball practice, my Samoan coach looked 

at me and someone else and said, "You two hapa hau oli's  go over there 

(to practice). I felt so good when I was looked upon like I was finally 

an islander. But, it had it's drawbacks. You see, that speech is saying 

"white" person. Hey, half white...

     What about me? What can I be called other than "White". Bet, it 

didn't cross your mind  that calling someone white is actually a form 

of discrimination too. How about Caucasian American? It sounds good, 

it looks good, and it feels better somehow. Do you think it can

be equal? Sure, I am white, but it is actually called Caucasian...And I am 

American...so, please, think about it...please refer to me as that Caucasian 

American. Well, consider it...

 

Vocabulary ABC's

Tuesday, August 11, 2020

It's Time to Grow Up

The life we lead, the life we perceive...

Never, in my life, have I seen the power of protest as it is going on today. The case of the fighting citizens. their actions can be choking, their pride intimidating, and their views questionable.

What are the underlying reasons for these protests? I ask, do you disagree with the law or the leadership? This causes a confusion. On one hand, we have over-protection on the other hand we have neglect. 

The first perception where others disagree in crowds on top of crowds over the laws and rules that govern said society, is considered a form of rebellion. Now bear with me, the second is to revolt against leadership. So, why am I scared?

Because, I have only lived through protests that are definitely one or the other. But, what is happening now is the complex grip that holds people in a brace of appendages, locked together as if wrestling one another, where one is more inclined to win over the other, but it takes both to gridlock before both begin their battle planning and thinking strategies. Yes, I say, what is happening now, is combining both rebellion and revolt, making foggy and shifty boundaries where the stand and reasoning is unpredictable. 

So, I ask, do we have rebellion? or do we have revolt? or is it a bit more complicated than that? Perhaps, it is unavoidable, where one will fuel the other and vice versa. Perhaps there is sabotage, creating a focus that undermines the true reason for why there are protests to begin with. Do I disagree with the laws? or Do I disagree with the leaders? The first is rebellion and the second is revolt. Yet, both are a cry for change.    

 Vocabulary ABC's

Covid-19 check list (jennifer scott) 

Stay safe, warm and dry...

 

 

Monday, July 6, 2020

How COVID-19 is Changing Life as We Know It (And How It's Not)


  Mother Putting a Face Mask on her Daughter 
 
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How COVID-19 is Changing Life as We Know It

(And How It's Not) by Jennifer Scott a guest author.

 
                                                                                                                                 

Please welcome Auntie Steph's first guest author: Jennifer Scott.

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How COVID-19 is Changing Life as We Know It (And How It's Not)





After months of staying in and working from home, life before the pandemic is starting to feel like a distant memory. While some of the changes we’ve made during the pandemic will be short-lived, others are expected to stick around long after COVID-19 ceases to be a concern.

Here are key ways COVID-19 is changing life as we know it — and how it won’t.

We’re donning masks

Face masks quickly became a wardrobe staple during the pandemic, and with stores out of stock, many of us are dusting off our sewing machines to make our own.

Don’t throw out those cute patterns just yet. Experts say we’ll be wearing masks for at least a year in public to slow the spread of the virus, per Today. If you’re still frustrated by foggy glasses, try a new mask design.

We’re cutting our own hair

The closure of non-essential businesses has left some of us rehashing childhood forays into DIY haircutting. The key to cutting your own hair is good shears, going slow, and sticking to trims rather than trying a new style mid-lockdown. Luckily, with states re-opening, your favorite hairdresser will be accepting clients soon.

We’re planting victory gardens

Our hair isn’t the only thing growing during lockdown. People are also digging up their lawns and planting victory gardens to keep their families supplied with fresh food during the pandemic.

The National Garden Bureau explains that a kitchen garden is easy to start if you have a backyard, but don’t expect to keep your fridge stocked if it’s your first try. For fresh food minus the grocery store, consider signing up for a farm share instead.

We’re buying less

It’s not just the grocery store that people are avoiding. Americans are spending less across nearly all categories during the pandemic. While it remains to be seen if these new saving habits will stick around, people say the pandemic has put them more in touch with their finances overall.

But we’re still buying homes

You can delay a new furniture set or car, but there are some things you can’t put off. Families are still welcoming new babies, remodeling to move in aging parents, and in some cases, even packing up and relocating entirely.

While home sales are down during the pandemic, people are still buying and selling homes with digital technology like video chat walkthroughs and 3D listings. When sellers do host in-person walkthroughs, many are requiring face masks and shoe covers. Expect high-tech tools like these to remain mainstays even after open houses resume.

We’re learning how to work from home

Whether you’re moving or staying put, there’s a good chance you’re learning how to telecommute for the first time — and it’s not all pretty. With remote work likely to stick around for the long run, it’s worth finally investing in a proper desk and an ergonomic office chair.

And working to learn from home

Kids are working from home too as schools shift to e-learning to finish out the school year. E-learning has been a challenge for parents, especially those who have to juggle kids with working from home.

Currently, CNN notes experts are hopeful that school will reopen this fall. But in the meantime, it’s not a bad idea to brush up on your e-learning skills and hone in on effective homeschooling methods.

We’re socializing from a distance

Technology isn’t just for working. We’re also socializing with friends, going on dates, attending church services, celebrating birthdays and holidays, and mourning losses remotely during the pandemic.

Luckily, with restrictions lifting, we’ll be able to socialize again soon — carefully, that is. While we can’t stay isolated long-term, experts stress the importance of assessing risk before being social. So while you might visit your local friends in a park, it may be some time before you’re traveling to visit elderly grandparents.

The truth is, there’s not much that hasn’t changed during the pandemic, which can be a strain on our emotional well-being. But while some of the big changes like working from home are likely to stick around, it won’t be long before we’re leaving the house (masked, of course) and finally visiting our favorite places once again.










Thursday, May 14, 2020

Asexuality in the Modern Era


              Asexuality is not a newly discovered sexual feeling; it is newly identified and considered to be a part of LGBTQ now under the umbrella of LGBTQIA. It is defined as “lacking sex or sex organs” in the Webster dictionary. As asexuality is identified through LGBTQIA circles it is considered to be the absence of sexual desire. Some people still do become very intimate to please a partner and/or to reproduce. Asexuality is a condition where a person does not experience sexual attraction. (Cerankowski, K.J., Milks, M.,2010) “As a result, those involved in the disability sexuality movement are often opposed to the idea of asexuality in the context of disability, seeing it as a wrongful label forcibly placed on them by a society that is ill-informed at best and oppressive at worst.” (Lund, E.M. & Johnson, B.A.,2015) Lund is explaining that asexuality is not a disorder, like homosexuality was considered a disorder until the new DSM-5 came out. It is not because someone is “sick”. Some experts take it further and explain that there is sexual identity, sexual interest, sexual behavior, and sexual orientation which will be looked at a little later in this article. (Moser,2015) The religious only accept heterosexuality, and the general public now acknowledges that LGBTQ exists. It should include, and finally does, in some literature, is LGBTQIA. This is the modern version of sexuality that is considered and acknowledged outside of the range of heterogeneousness.
            Looking further into the asexuality movement, Cerankowski and Milks declare that asexuality is a “new sexuality”. AVEN declares: “Asexual: a person who does not experience sexual attraction”. AVEN is Asexual Visibility and Education Network. It can be found on the internet and it has an interactive website. It does not mention if the site is anonymous or not. Just because someone is asexual, does not advertise that this is without all attraction. Some people still participate in all areas of sexuality. These include: romantic, aromantic, monogamous, polyamorous, gay, straight, bisexual, and lesbian. Everyone benefits from intimacy.
            People who have sexual PTSD might seek out nerve ending numbing methods to appease unwanted flashbacks, so they can be intimate without trauma. This can be done with surgery or medicine. It has been found that “reduced T levels (T = testosterone) are associated with decreased sexual fantasies, arousal, and motivation”, even though, “low T levels do not always mean the total loss of sexual function and desire”. (Selek,2018) Science proclaims the human race as social creatures. Selek et. al. explains that “human behavior is modulated by cognitive, emotional, social, and contextual factors”. Humans (most of us) need intimacy. It just happens that some need it a little bit more harnessed than others.
            In the past, women (and men) have been mutilated because they are mentally ill. They have endured, over time, many ethical crossings from the medical field’s ethical standards. They have been rendered sterile, just because they are mentally ill and the society, they are a part of, want them to be unable to have children, because the general public is scared. They think of the mentally ill harming children or having children that harm children.
            This does not take away the capacity for procreation. If someone is of the libido of what would be “normal” then the surgeries should not render them sexless. This is not to say “sexless” such as without identity, no. This is to say that the action of having sex is still within a person’s capabilities if they so desire. What is wrong about “special” surgeries, is that the patient is usually nonconsensual. Selek admits that this is being done, under the guise of SO’s (Sexual Offenders). He comes out very plainly, in the middle of his article, and admits “chemical castration, is being used as an additional treatment to psychotherapy”. This is done (unknown percentage) on many psychiatric patients, not just sex offenders that Selek is writing on. It is such a taboo to talk about non-consensual castration of the mentally ill, that he hides it in his article. Also, in the article, it mentions that medical castration has been used since the 1940’s. The treatment is called Androgen Deprivation Treatment or ADT. It is limiting testosterone levels, to gain certain behaviors. Sexual behaviors.  It is known that society would like sex offenders to be castrated in order to stop them from offending. Unfortunately, a person may still molest without the use of a phallic. If they are going to offend, they will find a way, sexual or by other physical modalities that are just as sexual in nature.
            Through the article, “Defining Sexual Orientation”, Charles Moser defines sexual identity (how individuals define themselves sexually), sexual interests (what individuals want to do), sexual behavior (what one actually does) and focuses mostly on sexual orientation (this can include fetishes). According to a specific Stanford Law Review (vol. 66:303), more women than men are self-identified as asexual. Approximately 1% of the population that identify as asexual. Out of that one percent, AVEN found that 65% identified as female, 31% identified as male, and 4% as intersexed or transsexual. These numbers are most likely estimates.
            Sexual interest refers to the motivation to engage in sexual activity. Interest is commonly referred to as “desire,” “sex drive,” and “sexual appetite,” and describes the sexual feelings motivating a person to seek some type of sexual activity, whether partnered or alone. Sexual identity has been described as a component of an individual's identity that reflects their sexual self-concept. Sexual identity can change throughout an individual's life, and may or may not align with biological sex, sexual behavior, or actual sexual orientation. Sexual behavior would encompass the act of performing various vicarious acts to induce arousal within the individual and/or the partner(s) of interest. Last, but not least, sexual orientation is a term used to describe within an individual the pattern of emotional, romantic, or sexual attraction. Sexual orientation may include attraction to the same gender (homosexuality), a gender different than their own (heterosexuality), both men and women (bisexuality), all genders (pansexual), or neither (asexuality). (HealthLinkBC)
            “Antipsychotic medication may be the most prominent cause of sexual problems including reduced sexual desire” in psychiatric patients, today. (de Boer, et. al.,2015)  Describing how things were before chemical castration, Dolan explains in her article, “it is important to keep in mind that the decades of involuntary sterilization that followed did not occur in a state of unquestioning belief or ignorance, but occurred despite the concerns expressed by some health care professionals and legal representatives”. The scene was set in Pennsylvania in the late 1890’s during the Progressive Era. The timeline of treatments in the mental health fields have discernable patterns. Many evolved due to legal concerns of individuals’ rights against the swayed concerns of the general public. These patterns are seen as such barbarity, that if someone from that era were to view the dilemmas of today’s mentally ill, they would certainly cry foul for their treatment was absolutely more barbarous than that of today’s patients. (Now titled clients).
            McWhorter proclaims, “To be effectual, asexualization should be enforced against rapists of whatever color. Unjust discrimination against the blacks merely serves to defeat the purpose of the method. The double color standard of virtue has already worked great harm.” Going further, McWhorter briefly explains that “People didn’t think of themselves as fundamentally sexual beings, as beings with a sexual orientation and a sexual identity that established them in their very selfhood.
            The mentally ill suffer from many instances of predation throughout their lives. For one to think that mentally ill clients are sex offenders is one of the worst rumors in society. The mentally ill are more likely victims of sex offenders, than being sex offenders themselves. This has been proven again and again. But, as society remains ignorant for what it is exactly to be proclaimed mentally ill, they will continue to think that the mentally ill are child molesters or murderers.
            What does it take to be labeled mentally ill? It takes one person, two doctors and a court hearing to declare a person mentally ill. That is all it takes, to directly affect the future of an individual. It is ruined from all the rumors (called stigma) and bias of public misunderstandings. It is determined that if a person has no idea how to obtain housing, clothing, and/or food. That is, it. Just knowing how to find one thing, keeps a person from being hospitalized. The experts say that many homeless people are mentally ill. But, as long as they know where to get food, they remain on the street. Homeless.
            Here the spill over of the Supreme Court rulings as forthcoming are: “The threads that link Jacobson, Buck, Skinner, and Harper include a right of human biological integrity, an ideal of human (biological) equality, and the threat that biological alteration poses to both. Alteration constitutes a unique breach of the right of biological integrity. The government does not merely invade a body but reconstitutes a person's physical constitution to suit its purposes. The government also supposes that biological differences among human beings not only exist but have significance for political action-a profound breach, if sometimes a warranted one, in ordinary principles of equality.” (William and Mary Law Review)
            To be mentally ill, is to be socially relegated to the gallows of societal castes. To become part of the outcasts of society. Back, in American history, the mentally ill suffered from numerous ill-informed procedures against their rights to reproduce and have intimate relations. This included the removal of ovaries and hysterectomies of mentally ill women and the removal of testes in men. Following this period, there were lobotomies and then there was shock treatment. Now, there is pharmacological treatment, where a chemical is prescribed that has a sexual dampener and is prescribed without the client knowing that it will interfere with their sexual capacities and feelings. Medical treatments for keeping psychiatric patients from having and wanting sex, is still done today, just in a different manner and is generally hush hush. They still have ECT done (electro-convulsive therapy). But it is a little bit more humane, where the client is given a sedative and the power of the shock has been adjusted so that it is not severe. Lobotomies are now against the law. Pharmacological treatment continues to this day and is still evolving.
            In conclusion, one does not know what the future holds. One can only be true to the self as it is. The big question is, “Who made you procurer of someone’s destiny?” and “How can you be so sure that what you are doing is the right thing to do, because you misunderstand and are afraid of the truth?” As McWhorter explains, “Once a child was labeled mentally defective, it did not matter what he or she might accomplish; the abnormality was still present.” Once labeled, one is forever so. This is the stigma. This is the label. This is the now.




References
Cerankowski, K. J., & Milks, M. (2010). New Orientations: Asexuality and Its Implications for    Theory and Practice. Feminist Studies, 36(3), 650–664
De Boer, M., Castelein, S., Wiersma, D., Schoevers, R., & Knegtering, H. (2015). The Facts About Sexual (Dys)function in Schizophrenia: An Overview of Clinically Relevant Findings. Schizophrenia Bulletin, 41(3), 674-686.
Dolan, D. V. (2007). Psychiatry, psychology, and human sterilization then and now: "therapeutic" or in the social interest? Ethical Human Psychology and Psychiatry, 9(2), 99-108. Retrieved from http://libproxy.sdsu.edu/login?url=https://search-proquest-com.libproxy.sdsu.edu/docview/205082115?accountid=13758
Emens, E. F. (2014). Compulsory Sexuality. Stanford Law Review, 66(2), 303–386
Lund, E., & Johnson, B. (2015). Asexuality and Disability: Strange but Compatible Bedfellows. Sexuality & Disability, 33(1), 123–132. https://doi-org.libproxy.sdsu.edu/10.1007/s11195-014-9378-0
McWhorter, L. (2009). Racism and Sexual Oppression in Anglo-America : A Genealogy. Indiana University Press.
Moser, C. (2016). Defining sexual orientation. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 45(3), 505-508. doi:http://dx.doi.org.libproxy.sdsu.edu/10.1007/s10508-015-0625-y
William and Mary Law Review. https://scholarship.law.wm.edu/wmlr/  [vol. 36:1203]