Stay strong. Don't let people push you around just to be the good guy. Even if they have authority. Don't. It can be very challenging to lead with authority when you have a mental disability. Any disability really. Leading can seem like you are bossing people around.
But, that is not the case. You stand up for yourself. Do it even if you want to just follow to play it safe. People pick up on stuff like that.
I'm not good at leading. When I was younger, I led with firmness. Then I changed cultures and it was frowned upon to be a firm leader. So, I demured. This was misread from my family. They couldn't understand why I acted the way I did.
I lived in Hawaii for five years. I assimilated the culture. It is collectivistic. My family is individualistic. Imagine trying to bring the family together when the family keeps you at a distance. They isolate you. You have nothing to contribute and you can only clean and babysit. You become the punching bag. The one that everyone picks on.
Humble, trust-worthy, genuine, honorable
I have been all of these things, but my family still emotionally abused me. They stopped doing that for the most part. Sometimes, I feel like the family has gone back to its old ways. Lies being told about me to other family members.
So, where is this coming from. I am in a master's program. I stood my ground and refused to be relegated to the end. No one wanted to partner with me. The instructor refuted my activity. And all looked bleak.
But, the next day, the instructor did a similar activity that I had planned. She spoke about emotional intelligence. If you know about me and emotional intelligence, you will find that I highly recommend learning as many emotions as you can.
So, I stood my ground. I'm going next I said. They figured out who would go with me. There is still conflict, but I am proud of myself for staying strong.